I’m gonna be honest, I don’t particularly like to admit when I’ve spent timescanning my newsfeed on Facebook. It’s something I usually succumb to when I want to check out of whatever task I am currently facing or whatever emotion I am not in the mood to deal with. But today, as I browsed my feed, I found three surprisingly interconnected, and interesting posts right in a row. The first was this quote from Conan O’Brien: “According to a recent study, most men would like women to occasionally pick up the check. The study also found that most women would occasionally like to be paid as much as men for doing the same job.” The next was an article about the discrepancy in pay between the female and male actors in “American Hustle.” The third was Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner talking about their opposing experiences of being interviewed on the red carpet (one of the two is repeatedly asked about how they balance family and career- I’m sure you can guess which one).
While I found the aims of these pieces inspiring, what I found to be even more inspiring was that so many people had the impetus to post them, and that when it comes to the way women are viewed, so many people are starving for a new dialogue. I could feel myself getting antsy as I read them, internally asking, “Where do we go from here?” We know we need to change the conversation, but what do we do about it? So I started plumbing the depths of my mind, searching for some logical solution, something assertive that could be done to facilitate change. And that’s when it dawned on me: I realized in my brainstorming (and quite literally brain-storming), I was analyzing a problem and striving for an answer. In other words, I was only tapping into my yang (masculine) sensibilities. And maybe therein lies the problem. I mean, how could I begin to tackle the masculine/feminine im-balance in society, when there is such an im-balance within me? So I asked myself to surrender to the yin, and instead of striving and analyzing, to let myself receive-instead of going after the change, to make some space for it. Today, I invite you to do the same, and take a look at the yin/yang within you. Perhaps if we all take the time to harmonize the male/female within ourselves, the world will follow suit.
Briana Pozner is a writer, actress & musician. She lives and works in Brooklyn, New York