It’s been an incredibly scary and emotional week. This weekend, we’re trying to find constructive ways to help the world and find gratitude in all that we have. Before we share reads that will hopefully inspire you and remind you of the beauty to be found in the world, we want to share ways you can help. First things first, contact congress. Then, go here and get involved in the movement. No more silence. #staywoke.
What we really, really want.
Is Wall Street ‘bro talk‘ keeping women down?
This excellent interview with ‘Mating in Captivity’ author Esther Perel. Also, her TED talks are so good. Seriously.
Celebrating female friends.
A beautiful movement.
Have a beautiful weekend.
There’s a Dear Sugar column that talks about ghost ships and how we all have our giant ship of the What If that never was. I can’t remember the initial question, or what led Sugar to bring up the ghost ship. I can’t even remember the exact words, only how I felt when I first read her column. I was working two part time jobs, six days a week and going extremely hard in my off hours – your liver is never as limber as it is in your early twenties. As I alternated between a proper office job and a chocolate shop, I watched a small fleet of ghost ships sail away, and I think I liked that. I liked watching my life transform in real time.
There were ships for all of the hesitations and poor choices, missed housing prospects, friendships that crumbled in post-collegiate angst. Ships for each extra drink that was probably a bad idea. I like to think about them when I’m driving (that’s when I do my best thinking) and I like to create the conversations that never happened. Sometimes I think it might be incredibly unhealthy to dwell on the past, to fixate on things that are basically irrelevant now, and sometimes I think it might be the best mental exercise possible.
And maybe I do spend too much time looking back at that part of my life, but I have to say that I do it not because I want to go back there, but because examining my present is too hard. I’m in the middle of this story, of building this ship (work with me here) that I may or may not board, and I need to let it play out before I go back and revise the plot.
So I spend my time questioning my motives – would I still have the same response? Have I changed at all? And when something else catches my attention, or the traffic suddenly becomes frenzied, I save those thoughts for another day, another drive. I will say that the ships are few and far between now. If anything, they’ve turned into ocean liners churning the middle ocean water.
Andrea Martinez is a graduate of Sarah Lawrence College and currently lives in Dallas with her rescue dog Ulysses. She dabbles in a little of this and a little of that.
Today, some thoughts on how to harness the energy of the Cancer New Moon via Mystic Mama:
“Cancer is the sign of the Mother, the womb of Life… a cardinal water sign that nurtures and protects, is creative and feels deeply.
This Cancer New Moon offers us a chance to re-birth our emotional body. What do you desire to feel about yourself and your life?
Can all of us give birth to a new emotional body, the grown-up, responsible, adult body that listens to its emotions, acknowledges them as valid feelings, which in turn tells us what we need to do to prosper in the world?
Happy New Moon. May it be so…
Here’s to weekend of friends, family, and fireworks! But first, a few reads….
Hooray for the Supreme Court.
Dame Judi Dench is living life.
What to read this weekend.
What to drink this weekend.
Feminist skate crew? Hell yes.
We’re ready to see a lot of this girl.
A beautiful book.
A beautiful company.
A beautiful woman.
Have a beautiful long weekend!
Image via People I’ve Loved
Lately, I’ve been having Feelings with a capital F and Emotions with a capital E. Mostly, this is due to hormones. But, there’s also some work stuff that’s been really challenging me. Let’s just say, the two are a potent mix.
I’ve been trying real hard to handle this week like an Adult, capital A. Trying being the operative word I guess. For me, trying means yoga, eating well, acknowledging that my responses to things aren’t always super rational, laying low, and being kind to myself. And writing. Writing is my answer to everything when it comes to feeling the feelings. If you’re sad, write it out. If you’re mad, write it out. If you’re lost, write it out. If you’re confused, write it out. If you’re bored (you guessed it), write it out.
So, I’m working hard to find the time (and the energy) to write it out and today, I recommend you do the same. A lot has been happening lately (in the news, in the stars, with the seasons). Whatever you’re holding in your heart, pour yourself a glass of wine, turn on some Joni Mitchell, and write it out.
And in case you feel like you’ve got a best-seller in you…Rules to write by from the lovely Caroline of Hello I’m Flawed.
Last year, almost to the day, we sat down with midwife, Cara Muhlhahn, to chat about women, life, midwifery, and babies (see the episode here). There was so much juicy stuff in our interview that we couldn’t include everything in the episode. But today, we’re sharing a short video that speaks directly to birth, home birth, and the cultural fear around the birthing process. To us, what Cara has to say when it comes to pregnancy and birthing is more than just wisdom for soon-to-be-mothers. It’s wisdom for women everywhere. Check out the video below…
We’d love to hear about your thoughts on the video, and if a home birth is something you would ever consider or wish you had the chance to do. If you’re interested to know more about Christina’s experience, you can read a post about it here.
During Oprah’s interview with Michelle Obama at the Next Generation of Women Summit, she said something that struck a cord instantly. She was talking about being a Mother and having large ambitions. She said:
Women need to know that you can have it all…Just not all at once.
I am sure that it has been said before. It might have even been said directly to me. But for whatever reason, as I was walking Oliver around our neighborhood for his afternoon nap, listening to the interview, headphones in, something clicked.
The truth is, I have been growing a lot lately. Learning about being vulnerable. Asking for support and tuning in to what is working and what isn’t.
I have a lot of big dreams and visions for what I want to create in my life. Sometimes the sense of responsibility I feel for them is so huge that I don’t stop and think about how it feels to be pursuing them. I don’t trust in the perfect timing. I don’t have the patience to let things unfold. I struggle to want it all RIGHT NOW. And since it’s not all, just some, I feel like I am failing at everything.
But Michelle, man. It feels like a new level of clarity is emerging and I am pretty excited about it.
Image via Censational Girl
This is what a feminist looks like.
That time Anna Wintour did stand up.
A message for street harassers.
When no one’s watching.
All hail Emilia Clarke.
“Girrrrrrl, you look amazing regardless of whether or not you’re even wearing a hat.” Lessons from Go Dog Go.
Why you shouldn’t date a guy who says he writes for Broad City.
Welp, this hashtag sucks.
Congratulations to Dr JJ Pursell for her spot in The New York Times!
And finally, read aloud for all to hear.
A beautiful podcast. (Seriously we’ve been binging on this all week.)
A beautiful blog.
A beautiful woman.
Have a beautiful weekend!
Creativity is hard, or it can be hard. But it also is the easiest thing. Let’s just say, it’s complicated. And when I had the pleasure of meeting Michelle Favin at one of Paula Mallis‘s amazing events here in Venice, we got to talking about just that.
I loved Michelle’s art, bought a print, and couldn’t get the idea that we were meant to collaborate on something just for creativity’s sake out of my mind.
Flash forward a few months, (Instagram kept us connected – yay technology) and I invited her over for tea. We decided to collaborate on a piece, mixing her free-form-flowing with my detail-dot-dotting, passing the work back and forth between our studios until it’s finished. Neither Michelle or I have ever done anything like this before, but we will will be documenting the whole process on the blog!
Also, the piece’s concept is completely inspired by Beyonce’s Lemonade. #beyhive