Let’s give ourselves a F-ing break


It’s a busy time of year. The leaves are changing and the whole city is aflutter with excitement for Autumn. There is non-stop talk of Pumpkin Spice Lattes, apple picking and crisp morning walks. And while we could wax poetic about butternut squash soup and our love of sweater weather, we decided to spare you from more of the same.

Instead, this week, we’ll talk of compassion. It is a hard thing to have and we won’t even pretend we’ve come close to mastering it. People fail, ideas fail, bodies fail, promises fail. It can all be so profoundly disappointing and sometimes it can hurt like hell. But compassion is our key to looking beyond these small disappointments, and keeping the bumps and struggles of our lives in perspective.

Do we posses enough selflessness to distance ourselves from our own suffering long enough to look at the suffering of others? When we see those suffering, can we be so compelled by their troubles that we ache to relieve them? And when it comes to ourselves, how do we find kindness? Can we look at our day, and instead of chastising ourselves for sleeping too late or eating too much, instead of wishing we had gotten more done and promising to do better, better, better, can we simply say… “today I did my best and that was enough”?

And on those most difficult of days, when it seems there is nothing but failure, let us remember that failure is an integral part of success and that we are on a journey that moves one step at a time.

This week, this month, this year, or just this morning if that’s all you can manage, practice compassion. Start with yourself and then move on to your partners, your parents, your co-workers, your friends, and the stranger on the street. It might be exactly what they need to get through a not so perfect day!


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